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Asking For Help From Friends And Family
New mothers often feel overwhelmed by all the new responsibilities thrust
upon them. Between constant feeding and nappy changes, you can easily feel as
though you are drowning under the weight of it all. Many moms feel like they
have to do it all on their own. Why? Often due to pressure from outside sources
to be some kind of Super-Mom. If you’re tired of being Super-Mom, here are a few
reasons why you shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help:
You deserve a break
Moms are busy people. Being great at multi-tasking, we take on lots of tasks and
often don’t get much credit or recognition for them. Even though a new baby
takes up 100% of our time, we still find time to wash, cook and clean. Stop!
Allow yourself to take a break every now and again.
You can’t do it all by yourself
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. In fact, it’s just the opposite; a
sign of strength. Someone once said that no man (or woman) is an island. How
true this is! There is no way you could do everything by yourself even if you
wanted to (why would you want to?), and if you did you would be too exhausted to
care for your baby properly. So ask for help right now and feel good doing it.
People want to help you
If no other reason works for you, remember this one: your family and friends
want to help you. That’s right – they want to. Family members of so many new
mothers say that they would love to help, but the mom never asks and they don’t
like to push in. Sometimes people don’t want to feel like they’re intruding, so
be proactive in asking for help. When friends and family ask if there is
anything they can do to help say YES. If people ask you what you would like as a
gift, mention housecleaning vouchers (or ask a close friend or relative to
spread the word for you). Babysitting from a trusted source is an excellent way
for you to allow others to help you and to spend some time with your baby –
leaving you free to put your feet up, go out with your partner, or whatever you
like to do to relax.
Being a ‘good’ mom means taking care of you
Last, but certainly not least, asking for help does not mean that you are a bad
mother. Lots of moms refuse help because they think others will view them as
terrible parents for doing so. They think they are admitting they can’t cope if
they ask for help. Nothing could be further from the truth. A good mother knows
when she needs help and isn’t afraid to ask for it – this is just one of the
ways she puts the welfare of her baby first. A good mother knows when she needs
a break, and knows that she needs to take care of herself first in order to keep
the rest of the family going.
You might also be interested in:
Read our Diary Of A New Mum and discover what happens when Jessica-Ann comes
home from the hospital and during her first year at home. This fun read is
perfect for new mums and experienced mums alike! New episodes weekly.
Diary Of A New Mum
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