Gearing up for back-to-school can be a bit overwhelming; there is a lot
to do, a lot of transitions to navigate, and often a sense of blues as
the realization that summer has, once again, gone by too fast. However,
you can easily turn back-to-school anxieties into positive anticipation
for a great school year with the following action plan. Plug these steps
into your calendar right now and see what a different they can make!
One Week before School: Week of Preparation
Day 1 (seven days before school): Ease into a “school” bed-time
schedule. Slowly transitioning into a “school” sleep schedule ensures
proper rest and encourages a positive attitude towards going back to
school.
Day 3: Create a place for everything, so everything will be in its
place. Designate one basket for each child to store his shoes, bookbags,
and jackets. Give each child a container filled with standard homework
supplies that can be transported from, for example, the kitchen to the
computer room. Finally, establish a place for each child to store extra
papers from school -a section of your file cabinet or a designated box
under his bed.
Day 4: Purchase supplies. Keep the supplies minimal and simple. Fancy
folders and notebooks are bulky and hard for students to use. The best
system to use is a one-inch binder with a plastic folder for each class,
keeping all folders in one place.
Day 6: Set goals with your children. Help your children look forward to
the new school year by having each person (including you) share at least
two goals for the new school year: one academic goal and one “fun” goal.
First Week of School: Week of Routines
Day 7 (night before school): Have a “Sunday Night Meeting” every week!
Each member of the family should grab their planners/calendars for a
10-15 minute “meeting.” Ask your children what they have scheduled for
the week (such as sports practices), share your plans for the week
(children like to know what to expect, so tell them if you will have a
late night at the office or will have to attend a meeting at school),
arrange rides home from after-school activities, etc. Your week will be
much less chaotic because everyone will be on the same page!
Day 8: Establish a routine for papers that need your attention. Purchase
magnetic clips for each child and post them on the refrigerator. Have
your children clip papers here that you need to fill out, sign, etc.
(Expect to spend four hours filling out back-to-school papers this
week.)
Day 10: Get ready for school at night, before you go to bed. Avoid
chaotic mornings and forgotten school supplies by having everyone pack
up their homework, bookbags, lunch/lunch money, etc. before they go to
bed. They should also set out their clothes, shoes, and jacket at night,
too. (Get the FREE ‘Night Before School’ Tool at http://www.soarstudyskills.com/morefreestuff.htm
Day 11: Is everyone using their school planners? All students need to
use a homework planner! Check planners every night until they are part
of everyone’s routine.
Day 12: Clean out bookbags once a week. Cluttered book-bags are the root
cause of lost assignments and must be cleaned out regularly. (The Sunday
Night Meeting is another good time to do this.)
Second Week of School: Week of Cooperation
Day 14: Hold your second “Sunday Night Meeting” of the school year.
Day 15: Give each child a choice about something today. The more you can
give your children choices, the more cooperation you will get from them,
especially when doing homework. Some choices may include giving two
options for dinner or two different times to do their homework. When you
give choices –and honor their choices- your children feel empowered and
will be much more cooperative.
Day 18: Catch your children being good today! Improve cooperation by
giving compliments to your children. Keep them specific and succinct
(most children are embarrassed by mushy-gushy compliments). For example,
“Thank you, Kristen, for coming home and starting your homework right
away. I appreciate that.” Positive praise works wonders!
Day 21: Give yourself a break! Congratulations, you have survived the
first two weeks of school and you are well on your way to a happy,
productive school year. Celebrate by scheduling some time for yourself.
You deserve it!
By Susan Kruger of SOAR Study Skills. Please visit
Susan's web site at
http://soarstudyskills.com/ for additional resources for study
skills and homework help.
Dressing Girls For School
I have spoken to so many parents who tell me it is a monumental task to get
their younger daughters ready for school in the morning. Unless your daughter
has only one set of clothes to wear, she probably wants to change her outfit
three times before choosing the one she will "agree" to wear to school each day.
Here's how we solved the problem in our family...
3 Easy Ways To Make An Awesome Playroom
Are you irritated every time you walk past your kids playroom? Paper here, toys
there, the floor is strewn with stuff that you can't even guess what it is! Most
of us feel a whole lot better when things are organized. Is it natural to be
neat and tidy or is it a skill that must be learned? We'll let you worry about
that question but we'll give you a few simple ideas on how to make that playroom
fun again.
What should you expect at 6 weeks, 6 months or 1 year? We provide useful
milestones and developmental stages so that you can keep an eye on your
baby's development in the first year. Baby Stages
Ideas For Sharing Stories
With Children
This two-part article discusses the ways in which stories and
storytelling play an important role in children's lives. Techniques are
offered for using stories to help develop children's verbal skills and
imaginations. This is part one.
Who Owns The Problem; Parent or Child?
It is tempting for parents to assume ownership and responsibility for everything that goes on in the life of their child. However, when the parent jumps in too soon to solve the problem or give the answer, the child never learns to trust his own judgment and become a critical thinker.
Parenting - Making A Schedule This article on the benefits of scheduling your day as a parent
really struck home with me. It took me a while to work this out for
myself when I had young children at home, and I wish I had done so - and
benefited from the much calmer household that was the result - sooner!
