"Are we there yet?"
"Mom, he's annoying me!"
"Are we there YET?"
"How much longer?"
"Aren't we THERE YET?"
It's phrases like these that drive fear into a parent's heart, and make
you wonder why you ever thought taking a family vacation was going to be
fun!
So what is a parent to do? Traveling with kids doesn't have to be a bad
experience. Instead of deciding to leave the kids home for the next
"family" vacation, relax! You can make traveling with the kids an
enjoyable and stress-free experience by following these simple tips:
1. When possible, travel at night and let the kids sleep. But be
cautious, because it's easy to get tired. If you find yourself getting
sleepy, roll down the windows, play music, or better yet, find a safe
place to pull over and take a 20 minute nap.
2. Plan your trip during the day with stops about every 90 minutes. By
planning ahead, and using travel planning software, online trip planning
sites or travel associations, you can find -- and stop at --
kid-friendly places such as parks with playgrounds, historic monuments
or view areas where everyone can get out and walk around for a few
minutes. Giving the kids even a 15 minute break will give them a chance
to "get the wiggles out" and work off some energy.
3. Bring along some sing-along music. Although your kids may groan at
first when you start singing, they'll soon join in, especially if the
songs are either well-known, absurd or "gross." Think of your own
childhood favorites, or camp songs. Singing can really help to pass the
time, and creates happy memories later on. To help cut costs, you can
even record your own CDs? If the kids don't know the words, create
sing-along books for everyone by typing them in your Word processing
program and printing them out.
4. Create a goodie-bag. Good ideas are travel toys and games, bubbles,
inexpensive art books and pencils, even the latest in collectible cards
or action figures. (To save money, look for seasonal sales or buy
something every payday.) To cut down on arguments about sharing, you can
set a time limit for playing with each game, before everyone has to
switch. Individual presents can be wrapped or not, and given out at
whatever schedule fits your needs and your kids' boredom levels. You can
even choose particular games for particular stops, such as bubbles,
Frisbees or small balls, which will encourage running off energy.
5. Bring along individual "quiet time" activities. These could include
an art box (keep the supplies inside an inexpensive plastic shoe box),
postcards or writing paper, or even a journal given to each child at the
beginning of the trip. Encourage them to write letters, or record their
thoughts and feelings. You can also bring along hand-held games, or
inexpensive CD players and earphones, so that everyone can listen to the
music or books of their choice. Depending on the space you've got and
the length of time you'll be gone, each child could have their own box
or backpack, to keep their things organized and accessible.
6. If your trip is going to include a lot of sightseeing,
pack a
backpack with sweaters, hats, swimsuits (if in season), extra socks and
even towels, in case anyone gets wet - accidentally or on purpose. Keep
the backpack in your trunk, so you can just grab it and go. Most kids,
if given the chance when near water, will really enjoy getting wet, and
it saves on the wear and tear of your vehicle if you plan ahead. Also be
sure to pack extra water and travel snacks such as energy bars, nuts or
travel mix. You can add to your child's enjoyment if you also include
things such as a magnifying glass, binoculars, a disposable camera and
their own travel map.
7. Include a "kid's activity" at least once every day. This may be
something as simple as going for ice cream after visiting a museum, or
going to a water or amusement park. There are often lots of great free
or inexpensive activities in most places in the States. To find them,
you can check ahead of time with local Chambers of Commerce, on city
Websites, or with your travel agent. To help keep the expenses down,
don't forget to check for "two for one" coupons, or discount tickets
that are often available at local fast food restaurants or in local
papers. Also, many family style restaurants offer a "kids eat free"
night, which could be a special treat.
8. Don't forget about the travel games you probably played as a child.
There is "Letter Bingo" where you look at road signs and billboard ads
to find the letters of the alphabet, or "License Plate Alphabet" where
you go through the alphabet in order. You can also create easy bingo
sheets that you print out with clip art of common sites you'll see on
your trip. Your kids will be more inclined to play along if they know
that your parents used to play the exact games with you. (Grandparents
are SO much cooler than parents are...)
9. Let your kids help to navigate, narrate and create information about
your trip. There are so many great resources online these days that can
help you make your trip even better. Letting your kids get involved
helps to make it more enjoyable for them. For example, let one child be
the "trip navigator" each day. They have the responsibility of looking
at the map, and making sure that the right exits are taken, or how much
farther to each destination point. (If you really want to get creative,
the navigator could wear a special hat or badge; the narrator could have
a "press badge" or carry a reporter's notebook, etc.) Older children can
create written entries into a journal or even in a Blog, talking about
the daily activities and sights. Another option is to bring along an
inexpensive tape recorder, and let each child record their impressions
of the different places you see or things you do. Younger children can
draw pictures, or use a disposable camera.
10. Start collecting postcards. Postcards are inexpensive, and your kids
will enjoy getting to send them to their friends or other family
members. Postcards are also a great addition to your family photo album
after the trip. You can cut them up, or even write about specific
experiences on the backs of them, to help everyone remember what you did
and where you went.
11. Create a scrapbook at the end of each trip, using the postcards and
pictures the kids took. Letting them help to decorate and put the
journal together is a fun after-the-trip activity.
12. Above all, give yourself a break. There is no such thing as a
"perfect" family vacation. Inevitably there will be things forgotten,
things broken or other "unexpected" problems.
By planning ahead, and making every effort to get your kids involved in
the trip, and giving the things to do to keep them occupied and
interested, there will be less stress and everyone will have a better
time.
Dressing Girls For School
I have spoken to so many parents who tell me it is a monumental task to get
their younger daughters ready for school in the morning. Unless your daughter
has only one set of clothes to wear, she probably wants to change her outfit
three times before choosing the one she will "agree" to wear to school each day.
Here's how we solved the problem in our family...
3 Easy Ways To Make An Awesome Playroom
Are you irritated every time you walk past your kids playroom? Paper here, toys
there, the floor is strewn with stuff that you can't even guess what it is! Most
of us feel a whole lot better when things are organized. Is it natural to be
neat and tidy or is it a skill that must be learned? We'll let you worry about
that question but we'll give you a few simple ideas on how to make that playroom
fun again.
What should you expect at 6 weeks, 6 months or 1 year? We provide useful
milestones and developmental stages so that you can keep an eye on your
baby's development in the first year. Baby Stages
Ideas For Sharing Stories
With Children
This two-part article discusses the ways in which stories and
storytelling play an important role in children's lives. Techniques are
offered for using stories to help develop children's verbal skills and
imaginations. This is part one.
Who Owns The Problem; Parent or Child?
It is tempting for parents to assume ownership and responsibility for everything that goes on in the life of their child. However, when the parent jumps in too soon to solve the problem or give the answer, the child never learns to trust his own judgment and become a critical thinker.
Parenting - Making A Schedule This article on the benefits of scheduling your day as a parent
really struck home with me. It took me a while to work this out for
myself when I had young children at home, and I wish I had done so - and
benefited from the much calmer household that was the result - sooner!
